Recently my husband Tom and I were at a local restaurant sitting in the bar area eating pizza and wings. I heard one of the staff members say to another employee (Jake not his real name) as she was leaving for the night “Please make good choices.”
“Please make good choices.”
I thought wow, why would she say that to Jake her co-worker and friend. Then I remember Jake had been talking to Tom and I about his family and a woman he has been long distant communicating with from his home state. Jake is a single parent raising two small children. Then I realized why Jake’s co-worker was a little worried about him. He was thinking about packing up and moving back to his home state to be with his old acquaintance.
A few years ago a childhood friend said to me people change, I am not the same person I used to be. People do change as they move through life journeys.
“I am not the same person I used to be.”
Is this person the same person you fell for all those years ago. Some would say yes and some would say no. I believe people do change. Interests change, goals in life change, careers, relationships and tragic circumstances change us and yes, bad stuff happens that make us view the world in a different way, then we did before.
“I believe people do change. Interests change, goals in life change, careers, relationships and tragic circumstances change us and yes, bad stuff happens that make us view the world in a different way, then we did before.”
The only way you really get to know someone is to be with them through the good, the bad and the ugly. I am not the same person I was when I was younger. I was really shy with a kind heart. I realized that, when I went to a celebration of life recently and met up with old childhood friends. I had changed through the years and so had they.
Only Jake can make the best decision for him. Hopefully, he really gets to know this lady before he packs up his family and moves. Some would say take a chance on love and others would say only a fool rushes in. We don’t want to live with regrets or should of’s, however we do need to weigh the possible outcomes.
Relationships take time. Getting to know the true person isn’t something that happens over night. It takes spending quality time with someone. Going through struggles as well as having fun together. Learning to communicate about the hard stuff instead of avoiding it. Taking the time to figure out if this is really the right person for me and I can’t live without them. ~ Patti
What would you do if you were Jake?
Would you take a chance on love and move or take the time to get to really know the person?
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